Life Lessons: From People Who Shouldn't Be Giving Them - Enjoy My Book!!

That's right! I wrote a book with the help of my wonderful husband.

Here's a quick introduction:

We started writing these stories at the respective ages of 27 and 28 years old. By no means do we feel that we should be giving advice on how to live your life since we really haven't been around that long. You might expect life lessons to come from a wise grandmother or someone who has lived for many generations. They are great sources by the way, so we do encourage you to talk to them as well. Nonetheless, our experiences range from great joy to great loss and we want to share our life lessons with the world. Thus, this book was born. We hope you enjoy our personal anecdotes and find our advice useful.



Here's Chapter 2 - How To Be Mental In A Good Way for your reading pleasure. Enjoy and use the links on the right to buy the book. Thank you for your support!!

"John handed me a piece of cheddar cheese and said, “Be careful, that’s sharp!” I, of course, called him a dork but chuckled because it was actually funny.

Think positively. There’s a positive side to any situation, even if you don’t see it right away. Sometimes it was years before I could see the silver lining to what I thought was the worst situation in the world…but it was always there. Thinking optimistically will attract positive energy to your relationships, your career, your health and your life in general.

Forgive. This is a tough one because I admit that I hold grudges. I will never forget it if you wronged me, especially if unprovoked and undeserved. However, I’ve learned that you can’t live your life if you’re stuck in the past. Shit happens to everyone, and you don’t have to forgive the people responsible, but you should forgive what happened. Make peace with it and with yourself in any way you can. Do this by acknowledging the good that came out of it. Did you become a better person? Did you learn something? How can you use it positively? Even if it was the tiniest shred of good, you need to recognize it. Only then, can you let go, move on and live your life.

Dream big. Seriously. I’m not just saying that. If you want something, go for it. Let's put it this way, why wouldn't you follow your dreams? Scared? So what. No money? Save up. No experience? You'll get it. To be blunt, there is absolutely no reason to give up on your dreams and/or to never pursue them. This book is an example of one of my dreams. I am not a superb writer, and I don't have any idea how to publish a book. However, I wanted to write a book and share it with the world. I would be happy if just one person buys it, so I simply created a Microsoft Word document and started writing one day. The rest will follow suit.

Live simply. Live simply in all aspects of your life. For example, surround yourself with people who only bring good vibes and liberate yourself from those who cause complications or lessen your well being in any way. If you’re asking yourself, “Ugh! Why am I friends with this person?” then that’s a clear sign that you shouldn’t be.

Another example would be to stop buying things you don’t need. Do you really watch all the premium channels? Do you even have the time to read the newspapers and magazines you subscribe to? Do you use your gym membership? Do you need another cutting edge electronic device? Only purchase the items you really need and absolutely love.

Enjoy the little things. Be open and observant enough to know what little things make you smile. For example, fortune cookies have somehow made it into our hearts. John and I like to eat Chinese food a lot, since the restaurant is across the street and the dumplings are delectable. The fortunes inside the fortune cookies happen to be just awful and usually not even fortunes at all. However, we find pleasure in reading them aloud to each other and if we happen to come across a really good one, we keep it (and then scan it and display it in this book).

Do what you love. You are happy when you are doing what you love, right? Then do it! Make time for it. Whether it’s your dream job or an activity that you carve out of an hour of your week for, make sure you are doing it.

Be yourself. If not, then who are you being? I know that's a silly question but seriously, if you can't be yourself then your surroundings should be reconsidered.

We are our best selves when we are free and comfortable. Your home should be your sanctuary. Your partner should bring out your brightest glow. Your friends should be people you can get away to, not people you want to get away from. Your actions, whether it’s your job (if you’re lucky enough) or your extracurricular activities, should be gratifying for you and also for others.

Being yourself is a state you should always be working towards or working to maintain. If your job completely sucks the life right out of you, then it’s time to take a small step in a new direction and start looking for a new one. Any situation in which you are short of being your true self should be phased out of your life. It’s much easier said than done, but it is definitely possible.

Remember, and try your hardest, to reconsider your surroundings minus the “rationalizations.” You know them. We all know them. They are how you rationalize to yourself that you should stay in your current, unhealthy situation.

For example, if you fight with your partner more than you are joyful with your partner, then it’s time to reconsider the relationship AND without validations like how long you’ve been together. You’re happy or you’re not. Again, it’s a lot easier to say it than to do it, but just imagine the multitude of potential happiness waiting for you on the other side."